The festive season means plenty of celebrations and more often than not, plenty of alcohol.
“For someone suffering from substance use disorder, it may be a challenging time,” says Adèl Grobbelaar, the manager of Johannesburg-based SANCA Wedge Gardens substance use treatment centre.
“However, there are various ways of dealing with the stressors. Remind yourself that while you have changed, the people around you or the circumstances you find yourself in might not have.”
Recovering alcoholics and substance abusers must have realistic expectations of others, she says. “If you have always had a conflictual relationship with relatives, the fact that you are sober is not going to change that. Add to that the reality that the festive season is usually family time and understand that old conflicts might emerge.
“Stay calm and do not react to a situation that costs you your sobriety. Plan and limit the time spent with people who make you ‘crazy’.”
Adèl says the best way to stay substance-free is to remind yourself each day how good it feels to be sober. List the things that you are now able to appreciate, such as birds singing in the morning, the different colours of the day, and other small pleasures.
“When you are with family and friends, plan activities that can keep everybody focused and busy. It is important to be prepared and plan activities rather than sitting around bored, wondering what can be done.”
She says recovering addicts should avoid spending time with people they used to drink or use drugs with. “Rather spend time with people who evoke positive emotions that add value to your life.
“Make sure you know where Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous meetings take place in the area where you spend your holidays, and maintain your recovery routine as far as possible.”
Being in recovery is not a sure guarantee of a perfect life, she cautions. “You may experience more cravings during the festive season due to exposure to more parties and alcohol. Have a list of actions ready should you experience a craving. For example, call someone, go for a swim, work out, or eat something you love.”
Should you attend parties, make sure you serve yourself and keep your glass filled all the time. “That way, you do not have to turn drinks down. You can also drink Ginger Ale or Coke, which gives the impression of whiskey and soda or brandy and Coke, should you be with people who might pressure you to drink.
“Being honest that you are in recovery is advisable. Most people know someone in recovery and will understand what you are going through.
“Keep your car keys close so you can leave the party should the urge to drink overwhelm you.”
Tips:
Do not get hungry, lonely, angry or tired when you know you are facing a tough time. “This would be the same as racing without caution towards a pothole you know is in the road.”
Always be grateful for your achievements because that is the change factor in recovery. “Consider what you can lose by using again. Are a few moments of fun worth the long-term pain should that one drink or one drug be your latest change factor?”
For more information on SANCA Wedge Gardens and the Full Circle Recovery Programme, visit www.wedgegardens.co.za